The unique and exquisite custom of Ba gu Miao village( a Miao village in northwest of Fenghuang, west Hunan )is distinctive. Although the people there live in a very simple and natural way, their courtship strategy is quite modern. For those who are still single, here are several tips as reference
Firstly, casting his net widely. When a ephebe is at the age of 18 or 19, He will manage to get in touch with as many girls as possible by various means while visiting their relatives.
Secondly, locking down his targets. As he grasps some fundamental information, he will latch down his target and take next steps
Thirdly, sounding out her intention. The way to probe his dream girl is artistic, he will make use of the opportunity when they go to a village fair on a certain date and chat up with her. After they meet, the boy will ask one thing from the girl, such as candy, to see whether she is interested in him.
This adventure would lead to three possible results! The luckiest one is the girl give the candy without hesitation, it implies that the girl would like to have a date with the boy; another is that she completely ignores him, in this case, do not think she is flirting with him and encourage him to try again, otherwise, he will get a remorse and hopeless blame; the last and most cruel scene is that the girl rejects him directly and bursts into the fit of anger, ends up with: 〝 Hungry Ghost〞.
If he is fortunate to encounter a gentle girl , though she does not interest in him, she will walk away silently without showing any hatred or anger.
Fourthly, chatting up with his dream girl. If he is lucky to get through all above steps , he will get chance to go down to his business-chatting up. This communication will generally focus on farm works. The girl will scrutinize the capacity and character of the boy through talking, a fluent answer and a ready tongue may facilitate him greatly. If he answers in a clumsy and awkward way, this courtship would come to a premature end.
By Brenda